Pancakes and Expectations
I had the most glorious weekend--I traveled to my parent's house where my sister, her husband, and my precious nephew Jimbo had come to visit too. My brother, Lawton, and his wife and daughter live there already. We had the best time together. On Saturday we all got in the pool and watched Jimbo (19 months) jump off the diving board and blow bubbles and watched Adeline (Lawton's daughter, 10 months) be such a little lady, so demure, wanting to keep away from all the noise the rest of us were making. Dad and Mom were in the pool too! It was a beautiful day and we took advantage of every minute.
It is such a treat for me to wake up to a house full of people. And to wake up to a little boy is even more of a treat! To eat pancakes with him and watch him eat sausage after sausage was thrilling. He talks ALL the time and makes everybody laugh. They are little miracles these children. I am so thankful to have such a loving family around me. Often I wish we lived closer, but then our time together may not be as precious as it is now.
I had no expectations for this trip home. I desired only to be around my siblings and their children and my parents. Things seem to run so much more smoothly when you let go of the way you want things to go and just let things happen. The same goes for relationships. The worst thing you can do is try to "engineer" a relationship. Relationships whether they are romantic or platonic need room to be as they desire to be. You cannot force something that doesn't want or need to exist. This means sometimes you have to let go of certain relationships because you realize that they are forced and somehow no longer make sense. We will all try to make certain things happen, it is in our nature to control. But in the end, those relationships that endure are the ones that were allowed to grow at their natural pace. On the opposite side of the coin those relationships that were made to grow, will eventually die. I have been in both kinds of relationships and I can honestly say that the ones that I let go of and let be were the ones that made me the happiest.
It is such a treat for me to wake up to a house full of people. And to wake up to a little boy is even more of a treat! To eat pancakes with him and watch him eat sausage after sausage was thrilling. He talks ALL the time and makes everybody laugh. They are little miracles these children. I am so thankful to have such a loving family around me. Often I wish we lived closer, but then our time together may not be as precious as it is now.
I had no expectations for this trip home. I desired only to be around my siblings and their children and my parents. Things seem to run so much more smoothly when you let go of the way you want things to go and just let things happen. The same goes for relationships. The worst thing you can do is try to "engineer" a relationship. Relationships whether they are romantic or platonic need room to be as they desire to be. You cannot force something that doesn't want or need to exist. This means sometimes you have to let go of certain relationships because you realize that they are forced and somehow no longer make sense. We will all try to make certain things happen, it is in our nature to control. But in the end, those relationships that endure are the ones that were allowed to grow at their natural pace. On the opposite side of the coin those relationships that were made to grow, will eventually die. I have been in both kinds of relationships and I can honestly say that the ones that I let go of and let be were the ones that made me the happiest.
posted by Mireille at 2:25 PM
2 Comments:
I get it! I have pushed so many relationships instead of letting them develop naturally. It is like you are writing about me! What is your secret? How does one recognize when the are forcing their will on the relationship?
Sounds like you had a great time. Like you, I love being around the kids they bring so much joy.
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